She did it again! For the 5th time, DD cut her own hair! And of course she lied about it... first she said it wasn't cut (uhhh.. I saw it the other day and there was no short hunk in front). Then she said she was cutting paper (uhhh... unless you were using the scissors 3 inches from your eyeballs, I don't think so). I looked her in the eye, told her to think and speak honestly, so she defiantly announced, "Yes, I did it!" Grrrr...
And I have to admit, I was not in the "oh, I understand this is FASD and your brain does't think these things through" mood. I was (and still am, to be honest), in the "I'm furious because you did this again!!!" mood. Her rage and refusals afterwards didn't help my mood.
I really don't understand the thought process that goes into this... Every time it gets her in trouble. Every time it is a mess I have to clean up. Every time I know she's lying about it. She was growing her hair out in order to donate it - we've been putting up with extra long hair for months now, waiting for that last inch. Yes, other kids cut their hair, but at 3, not at 13.
Sigh.. and this was on top of her refusals last night... The day went wonderfully (even if the 15 min. homework assignment took her 1.5 hrs.), but then she was mad at bedtime because she didn't get done with shower/dressing in time for snack (despite extra time and several warnings), and was mad when I came up to make sure the teeth got brushed, so she clenched her teeth on the toothbrush and pulled the handle till the thick handle snapped. And then raged and complained her teeth hurt (well... your choice to use them as a lever to break the brush.) Have fun brushing with the short part for a few days.
I know I should be more patient and understanding. I know I should accept that it is her prenatal brain damage that causes her to make these poor choices. I know that she is doing amazingly well. I'll be back there in a little while. But right now, I'm just frustrated and tired.
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6 comments:
I totally understand. It is soooo tiring, even when we know where it is coming from.
I think it's time to enroll little Miss HairCutter in beauty school! ~Kari
Hugs! This to will pass (again and again and again...)
when Julia shaved off half of one eyebrow - she denied it, I had her look in the mirror and asked what happened to it? she said it fell off - whatever...kiddo you have to go to school looking like that. Periodically the girls will cut a chunk of hair - not so much in the last year or so, before it was because they didn't like how it looked that day, it'll grow back. hang in there, hair styles will be the least of your worries in the next few years.
we all have our moments when we are patient and understanding, and our moments when we are not. we are human for sure!!! i totally hear you!
Everyone, even us super mom's, are entitled to "realize it but not feel it". How about having DD clean it up next time? Ah, sorry to spoil the moment but there probably will be a next time. DQ last did major damage to her hair at age 17 and it was u.g.l.y. It was a nice thought though donating to locks of love. Sorry it ended this way.
I'd been following your blog; hope everything is okay while you have been awol! Prayers to you and yours
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